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Dr Clark is certified to teach Crucial Conversations and Crucial Accountability

Tools for Talking When Stakes are High.

Crucial Conversations is a course that teaches skills for creating alignment and agreement by fostering open dialogue around high-stakes, emotional, or risky topics—at all levels of your organization. By learning how to speak and be heard (and encouraging others to do the same), you’ll begin to surface the best ideas, make the highest-quality decisions, and then act on your decisions with unity and commitment.  See the following link for more information.  https://www.vitalsmarts.com/products-solutions/crucial-conversations/

Enhance Accountability, Improve Performance, and Ensure Execution.

Crucial Accountability is a two-day course that teaches a step-by-step process for enhancing accountability, improving performance, and ensuring execution. By learning how to talk about violated expectations in a way that solves problems while improving relationships, you’ll improve individual, team, and organizational effectiveness. See the following link for more information

https://www.vitalsmarts.com/products-solutions/crucial-accountability/

Positive Positioning In Telephone And Text Message Communication

Mark Twain observed that the difference between the right word and the wrong word is the difference between a fire and a fire fly. So when you speak to customers, suppliers, and co-workers on the phone or write to them in a text, commit yourself to using language that indicates you value them.

As an exercise, put yourself in the place of a message receiver and judge how you would react to the following alternative phrasings.

I don’t know vs. Let me make an inquiry and call you back.

We can’t do that vs. Let me tell you what we can do

Hang on a second vs. This might take 3-4 minutes. Do you want to hold or do you want to call me back?

• You’ll have to …vs. Here’s what we ask that you do and here’s how we will respond when you do

Can I put you on hold? I have somebody on my other line… I’ll have to call back. I have an important call on the other line vs. Can I call you back in a few minutes?

Who did you say your name was? vs. Would you please repeat your name?

Sorry I did not call you back yesterday; I was busy vs. Thank you for returning my call. I wanted to touch base with you about….

I called yesterday to see what you guys charge per hour vs. I called yesterday to find out what ABC charges per hour of on-site service.

A key to maintaining positive interpersonal relationships is shaping the language of your responses so they show respect to everyone who hears or reads them.

Limitations of PowerPoint & Storytelling for Critical Thinking

This blog briefly addresses two issues: 1) PowerPoint vs. Memos/Handouts and 2) Storytelling vs. Empirically-based Reasoning.

1.A PowerPoint presentation has inherent limitations that can impair its capacity to present logically complete arguments (when compared to memos). 1.It is design-centered rather than argument-centered, with an emphasis on layouts, company logotypes, and visual components–and room for a limited amount of text, including conclusions, rationales, data, and implications.
2.These features reduce the ability of creators and consumers of these slides to develop, defend, and evaluate whether the information communicated constitutes complete and coherent arguments, as compared to the creators and consumers of one-page memos. (See below).

2.The success criteria for a well-written one-page memo emphasize good thinking on paper, with a focus of audience-centered document design and argument. These criteria include 1.Through design and deductive reasoning, winning the all three moments of truth: skim, scan, and word for word.
2.Allowing readers to see a clear relationship between goals, findings/reasons, and steps.
3.Allowing readers to see if each claim, finding, or reason is supported by a clear rationale and data.

Storytelling vs. Empirically-based Reasoning
1.Storytelling is an excellent complement to, and not a replacement for, a well-reasoned argument. As the Heath brothers argue persuasively in Made to Stick, people remember stories, which serve as an excellent antidote to the “curse of knowledge,” a focus on facts so intense that the author loses sight of the need to consider reader preferences. On the other hand, stories, unsupported by facts, may lead readers to incorrect conclusions.

2.Writers should consider a variety of types of argumentation patterns in developing a coherent narrative for their proposals. These would include storytelling patterns, such as The Challenge Story (David vs. Goliath); the Compassion story (Good Samaritan); and the Creativity Story (McGyver), as well as more traditional argumentation patterns, including lead from strength, problem-cause-solution, and categorization (e. g, sales $$, geography, ROI).

Promoting Telemarketing Experience in Resumes and Job Interviews

Here are some qualities that you can promote on paper and orally if you have worked as a telemarketer.

Persuasive

  • Communicate effectively with customers from all wealth ranges
  • Skilled at building rapport and influencing others
  • Used a persuasive strategy of benefit statements, dealing with concerns, asking for a decision
  • Listen well with good attention to timing, attending to both facts and feelings
  • Used recognition successfully to motivate giving
  • Praised for clear, articulate speech and speaking with enthusiasm
  • Achieved goals even when dealing with difficult personalities
  • Dealt well with rejection; maintaining a positive attitude and immediately dialing next number

Coaching

  • Trained callers on techniques of persuasive selling
  • Used positive attitude and challenging goals to motivate colleagues to meet daily goals

Goal oriented

  • Achieved recognition in a competitive environment by persisting in pursuing sales goals
  • Work well independently and on a team
  • Manage time well

Positive personal qualities:  Identified as

  • Loyal: worked at this job for 3 years, with consistently improving results
  • Serious about work, prepared well for tasks
  • Confident, eager to do a good job
  • Friendly, courteous and personable
  • Trustworthy and reliable

Dealing with negative and self defeating emotions

William James: “The deepest craving of human nature is to be appreciated.”

 

Adapting to the difference between being a high school sports star to being a bench player in college requires a significant adjustment in attitude if you are to profit from your collegiate athletic and academic experience. Not getting into the game or the same positive attention as players the coaches have identified as top performers or missing the support of a parent or friend, can lead to stress, anxiety, and feelings of inadequacy, all of which can get in the way of your best performance on and off the field.

 

Fortunately, there are several simple ways of dealing with negative emotions.

 

  1. Adopt an “attitude of gratitude” by writing down at least one positive in your life each day, preferably as the first thing you do in the morning. Realize that what you have achieved as an athlete is a rare gift, rewarded by continued participation at the collegiate level. Also give thanks for the people who helped you develop your skills and also those who supported you in other ways. Use visualization to recreate mental images that extend and reinforce your positive feelings.   Commit to expressing gratitude in writing or orally at least once a day to someone in your circle to extend positive attitudes to another. Learn to be grateful for lessons learned, when you realized a positive outcome after learning a hard life’s lesson and appreciating your improved performance as a result.

 

View the following 2-minute video with inspirational text, music, and photographs on the importance of gratitude.

 

 

  1. Identify the conditions under which you feel stress. Feelings of stress are normal and often habitual, triggered by situations with similar characteristics. Make an effort to identify recurrent stress-producing situations, such as being yelled at by a coach or fellow player.   This will help prevent your emotions from escalating and allow you to choose a more rational reaction to your circumstances, one in line with your goals rather than expressing spontaneous emotions, which may lower others’ opinions of you as a committed team player. As an alternative, focus on the compliments you receive for effective plays and replay your best behavior in your mind as reinforcement.

 

Open the link below for a concise explanation of how flight or fight responses are both automatic and temporary.

 

http://www.athleteassessments.com/articles/the_amygdala_hijack_brain_snap.html

 

  1. Use the 6-second rule to help strong emotions fade and rational thinking return. See the video on the link below. It shows that strong emotions typically last 6 seconds or less. Try counting to 600 by 100s, while taking a breath and exhaling slowly. These actions allow you think about how to react in terms of your goals instead of your emotions.

 

http://www.mhhe.com/business/management/videos/POM_V2/Flashvideo/EmotionsinCheck.html

 

  1. Analyze your own and teammates’ behavior and do an honest and realistic self– Ask the following questions and rank yourself on a scale from best to worst in comparison to teammates.

 

  1. What do the top performers do to improve their competitive skills? What do the worst performers do?
  2. How do the players who have the best relationships with fellow players communicate with them? The worst?
  3. How do players who have the best relationships with coaches communicate with them? Behave in practice and in competitions? The worst?
  4. What can I learn from players with the best academic records?

 

  1. Commit to a self-improvement plan modeled on what you have observed about the players who get the most playing time and those who are most respected by coaches and fellow players. Just as the most dedicated players continue to fight for victory when losing a game, you need to continue to pursue your best interests even when discouraged. Find a fellow player to serve as an accountability and study partner who will let you know when you are fulfilling and failing to fulfill your improvement plans. This will encourage you to maintain a commitment to your plan.

 

  1. Talk to your coaches and counselors about your athletic and academic goals and plans. Your school recruited you because the coaches saw you as someone who could help their team succeed. Take advantage of their goodwill and experience by sharing your goals and asking what they believe you can do to achieve them. Agree to a plan of action and follow up by letting them know what you have been doing to implement the plan. They will appreciate and recognize your efforts.

 

Being selected to play on a collegiate team is a privilege that only a small percentage of high school athletes are given. When you are feeling down, take positive action. Keep a gratitude journal, define positive goals for your athletic and academic performance, and commit yourself to implementing plans to allow you to continuously improve on several fronts.   Appreciate small victories, taking positive credit for each step you take to achieve your competitive and academic goals.

 

Good listening skills: the nonverbal communication advantage

As athletes you are probably expected to do a lot of listening: to coaches, advisors, teachers, teammates, business mentors and others who want you to learn from their wisdom. When these people are speaking to you, they will be judging you based on whether they think you are taking them seriously. And that judgment will be strongly based on your listening skills, your nonverbal behavior while they are speaking.

 

To understand the impact listening skills can have on others’ opinion of you, draw some insight from your own experience.

 

  1. Recall a time when you thought you were sharing an important idea with someone and at some point realized your remarks were being ignored.
  2. What did you observe about the other person’s behavior that signaled they were not interested in what you were saying?
  3. How did that experience make you feel about yourself?
  4. About the other person?

 

What you may have found is that people are greatly affected by poor listening behaviors–that a person’s subsequent behavior in a conversation, their feelings about themselves and about the other person all are influenced by how they felt once they realized they were being ignored.

 

Fortunately, once you become conscious of what good listening looks like to speakers, it is easy to be perceived as a respectful listener. It only requires you to consciously monitor your behavior when others are speaking to you. This means establishing eye contact with the speaker 50-70% of the time; minimal encouragers, such as head nods and occasional relevant questions; a posture of involvement, such as leaning forward in an open position; and empathetic facial expressions.

 

You need also avoid behaviors that suggest you are not interested in the conversation, such as a lack of eye contact, frequent interruptions, answering a cell phone, exhibiting a “stone face,” or abruptly changing the subject.

 

The dilemma many athletes face is that positive listening behaviors may not come naturally. Developing good listening skills is not the same as having good hearing. Keeping a “stone face” to not show a reaction to an opponent’s score–or pain or discomfort suffered in a collision–has its place in a competition. Scanning the field for opportunities rather than looking at teammates with effective eye contact may become habits that prove valuable on the field while creating the appearance of rudeness and indifference to a speaker in a one-to-one conversation.

 

Fortunately, good listening skills are easy to identify and to put into practice with conscious effort. The effort is worth the reward as speakers have a gift for attentive listeners—their trust as well as well as assigning positive traits to the listener such as courteous, attentive, concerned, and respectful, all critical attributes of successful employees.

 

Henry David Thoreau said that the “greatest compliment ever paid me was when one asked me what I thought and attended to my answer.” Planning listening behaviors to meet a speaker’s highest criteria pays rich dividends to those who take the time to practice them.

 

Exercise: In a small group of fellow athletes, including members of both genders, record answers to the following six questions on a chart-pad and discuss their implications.

 

  1. What have you observed that lets you know someone is listening to you?

 

  1. How does it make you feel when you know someone is listening to you?

 

  1. What words have you used to describe people who have listened to you attentively?

 

  1. What have you observed that lets you know someone is ignoring you?

 

  1. How does it make you feel when you know someone is ignoring you?

 

  1. What words have you used to describe someone who has ignored you?